All of you guys are kind've dumb based on what you said. The main reason why most black educated black men like decide to date out of race, is because black girls didn't like us back in the day. When I was going to college to get out of the hood, black girls were focused more on the thugs, even the middle class black females; and they never gave guys like me the time of the day, unless I was some white nerd. So how is a black man ( opps my bad, a nerdy black man) suppose to marry a women who resented, hated, and found him unattrative based on him not being a thug. However, it is so funny that now that I have my MBA and JD, these same women are calling me. LOL
Brassman hit it on the nail and so did the "nerdy black man". But successful black men don't always go to just white women, they go to Asians (Dave Chappelle), Hispanics (Kobe Bryant), and Armenians (Kim Kardashian). I've always been baffled by the concern and bitterness black women have towards the white woman as if that is the only type of women black men gravitate towards. It always amazed me. As a black male I've always been attracted to women outside my race, and many black men are. Whenever your successful no matter what race a lot of women make themselves avalible to you. You have a lot to chose from. Why is it so important that these men date/marry black women? Its not. They marry who they feel is best for them.
Because in general white women are more submissive than black woman and most if not all men like a woman who is submissive and makes him feel like he is in charge. Many white women understand this and practice it especially where successful black men are concerned.
I like latinos I'm black and young and got two jobs and I know I m a good dude and I don't deserve a woman who thinks she has an excuse to act the way she does I don't care with anybody says imma do me
The closest answer to the real reason is TX 1968. Unfortunately,The main reasons for successful black men dating outside their race are embedded within the history of black people. Many black men date outside of their race because of self-esteem issues and the availability of other women after he "has made it". Stories of the Black woman being bitter, materialistic, "bad attitude", emotional baggage and other negative stereotypes are all BULL!!! I don't know where you guys come across these black women but I have come across women of ALL races who exhibit these kids of negative behaviors.
Society epitomizes the white woman and her beauty. For the successful black men who date white women, having a white woman on his arm makes him feel that "he has arrived" and probably elevates his ego to know that a woman of another race "desires him". Notice that the black men who have high self esteem and are connected to their culture......they don't need a white woman to make them feel like they "have arrived" or buy into the negative stereotypes that black women are bitter and have negative attitudes. You mean out of all the black women in and outside North America.....they have only come across the ones who are bitter, materialistic, loud and negative ones? Give me a break, it is just an excuse or cover to date outside their race.
Well let me answer my own question. When a black man who thinks success is based on financial gains or material wealth equates to that of being white and right. In order to keep that status they feel that having some white woman on their arms will keep them at the top and think that black women are so hard to get along with. As if that white woman is not seeking the same thing. Trust me when things get tough and you so-called men who date white women for wrong reasons will realize that you will never be accepted in White Man's World.
One reason is that these black men are not free in there mines, they are trying to get back at the master they think by getting a white women that will make them hold, these men hate themselves and most of them don't know it they have some what the same thing that m/j had that made him paint his face white but most are not to m/j point.don't get me wrong I love all lades, what I love about them I can find it in any race its all about the person,not race
A lot of black men date white women when they are successful because they want to be accepted by the more wealthy white men. Black men aspire to be as successful as the white man so he dates white women thinking that the white man will accept him more. Its pretty pathetic if you ask me.
I would have to say the differ. Not all blk men date white women when they make it big. I don't feel that that is the reason...I think that they are just with who they want to be with. Whats wrong with being with someone you love? Who says you have to be of the same race? Why can't they just be happy with who they are with? Have you ever thought about a male..finding a women that can offer him what he can offer her...Blk, white, Mexican..ect It honestly doesnt matter what the race is as long as the two of them are happy.
Could it be because it is tiring to be black in a racist society? Maybe marrying someone who isn't black (and so doesn't really understand the oppression of black people) is a way to avoid having to spend your life thinking about or fight against that oppression. Maybe it's just a way to sidestep politics and try to live your life doing what you want without having to think about race - just like all white men are free to do automatically.
Txs1968 got it bang on the dot....black women are too materialistic and self-obsessive and are always trying to prove they are the best etc etc...brothers want to break out of that game/life and live....end of!
Black woman that I know stand up for what they believe in, and that is work for what you get, no man can lay back and watch soap operas all day while the sister holds down a job, but women of other cultures and ethnic groups do allow the man to not work while they are the bread winners, but in actually it should be two working together, and black men consider this to be mouthy when a woman tells him that, as life has it set up the male is suppose to be the hunter and bring in the food etc. And the female is suppose to be the keeper of the castle, so when the hunter gets home his castle is to be peaceful and comfortable for him to be able to relax, plus other races of people have always treated their female as second class citizens, black women will have none of that....the best to you
