How can you limit verbal aggression as your response to anger?

You can limit verbal aggression as your response to anger in a number of different ways. Verbal aggression can be very hurtful and can permanently damage relationships with your friends, family and partner. Aggression can be caused by lots of different factors; understanding your own triggers and reasons for such a response is important when learning to control it.

• Possible reasons

Understanding the reasons why you respond to situations that have made you angry in a verbally aggressive way can help you control and limit your aggression.

There are all sorts of reasons why people may react in an aggressive way including past traumatic events, childhood, upbringing, personality and low self esteem to name a few.

If a person does not know the root cause of their aggression problem, it is best to talk to a doctor who will put them in contact with a professional counselor. A counselor will get to the bottom of the problem and then help their client to come to terms with the issue.

• Possible solutions

Obviously the best solution for most people is some kind of counseling; this is likely to help most types of aggression. It is important that a counselor is chosen that will best suit the client as the client will need to feel very at ease with them and be able to open up.

A lot of people do not like the sound of counseling and will refuse to let other people into their business. This is especially the case in clients with aggression problems, as they often feel ashamed and embarrassed after the event.

In this case, self-help methods could be tried at home but if these methods do not work then advice should be sought from a professional. Self-help methods are certainly not easy and will take time to control verbal aggression fully.

When a person feels they are starting to get wound up then they should take a deep breath and remove him or her self from the situation. This can sometimes be difficult if the other person involved complains that they are walking away from the issue. If this happens, explain that you are getting angry and need to calm down but will return to talk the problem through calmly in a while.