Does doing for yourself make you happier or doing for others?

I think it depends on who the "other" is. Some people I feel great knowing I can help. You see them trying to make things better for themselves or someone just had something bad happen and you want to help.

If it is someone telling me they don't have money for groceries and I see a picture on Facebook of their kid in a new outfit playing with a new toy. I have no problem going out and treating myself to a pedicure.  (I also know the grandparents will feed the child.)

Both. I'm very very picky 🌵now, as to who I help with money. I'll give a $1 💵 only and lots of 🙏prayer😄.     

I learned the hard way I need to be just as happy as the people I help😊.

I try to mix it up ! I'll always help someone if I can but I don't mind kicking back and doing something for me either. So, all in all, they both make me happy in their own way.

Dear Zack,

I don't think it's either/or...at some point, you can't really be happy until you are doing for others...it's who we are as human beings...

For a superb disagreement to my perspective, read Ayn Rand THE FOUNTAINHEAD. She does a great job, but I think she only covers the first step...what she talks about will really get boring after a while.

Myself , I like to do nice things for others and do, but I now put myself first and that's fine. Cos I said so.