What a great question! - there are many answers for this one. First, I refer you to watch a movie , or dvd, you can rent or get this cheap online, called, " The Butterfly Effect".
communication is based on SHARED LANGUAGE AND PERCEPTIONS.
human beings are different culturally, emotionally, socially as to smaller social circles'', they come from different family structures, they are genetically different with different personality makeups, these are just a few ways in which we can get our signals crossed and misunderstand one another.
A good example is the laotian or thai language. In this language, the words want and need mean the identical same thing. So in some smaller Asian cultures similar to the polynesian cultures...polygamy was expected as normal means of expression. If you need what you strongly desire or want, then there is no IDEA for wants and needs being separate. This is NOT victorian western judeo christian thinking! Oh, and yes...religion.
Look at how religious beliefs differ even in the members of the same religion or church.
Schools of theology exist because of how religious views color our whole life and how we see things.
Our perceptions or beliefs are partially influenced or based on our religious views or lack of them.
How do people miscommunicate? One thing.
we believe the other person IS like us or should BE like us, and we don't understand when they are not like us.or, we think the other person is different from us in a way they are NOT different so we stereotype them, and when they don't act according to our EXPECTATIONS or vice versa, when we don't act the way they expect us to...misunderstandings happen.
You may say exactlly what you mean but they don't understand. What you say may be that foreign to them.
Good communication means meeting the other person at their place of understanding, and pulling them gently to your point of view even if they don't see things your way. You have to find a middle ground. If youve ever observed two people in conflict, you will see a point where one of them is not listening ...or neither person is listening and showing that they heard what was said.
The dvd movie, ' The Butterfly Effect" shows a fiction story where a man and his son have the power to shift through thought and travel through time. This has a tragic effect on the brain.
The problem the men encounter is, whenever they try to change time, their recollection of the past was colored by their own emotions. In other words the way people remember events is based on personal beliefs which may not be factual, we remember events based on our feelings, and we don't draw rational conclusions. To help his friend, this guy goes back in time but he cannot help until he really understands his friend from HER reality. When he evaluates his participation in her life, he realizes what he has to do to help her. This involved him looking at his own actions and motives and how HE affected others. Even innocent actions we do every day have an impact on others, but we rarely have cause to stop and see them.
Its not always about being a good or bad person, but its looking at how we are in groups with others. And to change that you have to overlook your own feelings to get it right.
Yes, its that deep! Fascinating!
One good example wold be when a person has a problem being told what to do. A person who cannot express himself keeps things to himself. One who does not accept ideas and different ways of doing things other than his own. One who blocks out feedback and has no inpu
Interpersonal communication is also susceptible to various problems technically called barriers. They are of human origin and development, all of which are discussed below.
Polarization refers to the tendency to look at the world and to describe it in terms of extremes – good or bad, negative or positive, healthy or sick, intelligent or stupid etc. There is always a place between the two extremes, for example, that there are certain people who are extremely rich whereas others are extremely poor but there is a vast majority of people who are clearly in the middle.
Intensional orientation refers to the tendency to view people, objects and events in terms of the way in which they are talked about or labeled rather than in terms of the way they actually exist and operate. It could be seen in another context as sometimes the way we act if the words and labels were more important than the things they represented.
Allness is the apocryphal assumption of knowing everything. It is an established fact that no one knows everything. But everyone knows something. The former wrongly established conjecture could prove to be destructive for the person who is thinking it as well as for others with whom he interacts.
Indiscrimination is denial of a person's uniqueness. Every thing and person is unique. Indiscrimination is a communication barrier that occurs when we focus on classes of individuals and fail to see that each is different, each is unique and needs to be looked at individually.
When someone cheats on their wife
Barriers and would avoid them when reading, speaking, listening and writing
These are things which intercepts with effective communication
Problems with the climate of the relationship,valued held,and negative attitudea held by the participation
First you decide to take full responsibility, then you use reason and be direct but patient. At some point before you handle this situation, you run it through your mind how it will go, what might happen and how you will take care of it. Run it through your mind until you have it worked out to your satisfaction.
Interpersonal Barriers. There are six levels at which people can distance themselves from one another:
1. Withdrawal. Withdrawal is an absence of interpersonal contact. It is both refusal to be in touch and time alone.
2. Rituals. Rituals are meaningless, repetitive routines devoid of real contact.
3. Pastimes. Pastimes fill up time with others in social but superficial activities.
4. Working. Working activities are those tasks which follow the rules and procedures of contact but no more.
5. Games. Games are subtle, manipulative interactions which are about winning and losing. They include "rackets" and "stamps".
6. Closeness. Closeness is the aim of interpersonal contact where there is a high level of honesty and acceptance of yourself and others.